Understanding Your Nervous System Responses — And How Kinesiology Can Help You Heal
- Melinda E. Tupling
- May 8
- 3 min read

Have you ever wondered why you react to stress the way you do? Maybe you get anxious and can’t sit still, or perhaps you shut down completely and withdraw. These patterns aren’t random — they’re part of how your nervous system responds to pressure, challenge or overwhelm.
By understanding these responses, we open the door to healing, balance and greater resilience.
Let’s explore the four main stress responses — with examples of how they might show up in everyday life — and how kinesiology can help bring calm and restoration:
1. Flight Response
When in flight mode, we become hyper-alert.
This often shows up as:
Overthinking every decision
Workaholism or constant busyness
Perfectionism and fear of failure
Anxiety, obsessive behaviours, or difficulty sitting still
Example: A client might say, “I can’t switch off — my mind races at night, and I always feel like I’m running on adrenaline,” or “I keep piling more onto my to-do list just to avoid feeling anxious.”
How kinesiology helps: Kinesiology gently calms the nervous system through muscle monitoring, breathwork and energetic balancing. Techniques like emotional stress release, acupressure or sound healing help ground you, ease mental tension and reconnect you with inner peace.
2. Fight Response
In fight mode, the body gears up to confront the stressor.
This may appear as:
Anger outbursts or irritability
Controlling or perfectionistic behaviour
Explosive reactions or sudden mood swings
Defensiveness or lashing out when criticised
Example: A client might share, “I keep snapping at my partner or kids over little things, and afterward, I feel terrible but can’t seem to stop,” or “I feel on edge all the time and get defensive at work, even when no one’s attacking me.”
How kinesiology helps: Kinesiology helps address the root of these reactions by releasing stored anger or frustration. By balancing energy systems and supporting emotional regulation, it becomes easier to shift these intense patterns into more constructive and empowering responses.
3. Freeze Response
Freeze shows up when we feel overwhelmed and shut down.
This might look like:
Difficulty making decisions
Feeling stuck or paralysed
Dissociation or numbing out
Withdrawing from others
Example: A client might say, “I get so overwhelmed that I just can’t do anything — I scroll on my phone for hours or avoid everyone,” or “When I’m stressed, I go blank and can’t make even simple choices.”
How kinesiology helps: Kinesiology gently supports this state by integrating techniques that reconnect body and mind. Tools like flower essences, trauma-informed balancing and energetic resets can help you feel safe, present and ready to reengage with life.
4. Fawn Response
Fawning is when we become people-pleasers to avoid conflict or rejection.
This might show up as:
Blurred boundaries
Over-giving or difficulty saying no
Loss of identity or people-pleasing
Overwhelm or codependency
Example: A client might share, “I always put everyone else first — I feel exhausted, but I’m terrified of letting people down,” or “I say yes when I really want to say no, just to keep the peace.”
How kinesiology helps: Kinesiology helps uncover and release the patterns driving the need to please while strengthening your sense of self. Techniques like boundary strengthening, chakra balancing, affirmations and clearing work can help you reclaim your voice and inner authority.
Why Kinesiology Helps
What makes kinesiology so powerful is its holistic nature — it works with mind, body and energy all at once. It moves beyond talk-based approaches to address what’s stored in the body, helping to clear blockages, restore balance and awaken your body's innate healing abilities.
As one client, Silje, said: "A session with Melinda has brought about a nervous system reset unlike any other therapies I've tried. These sessions have had a profound impact on my wellbeing."
If you’ve been feeling trapped in cycles of stress, anxiety, overwhelm or burnout, kinesiology offers a compassionate and effective way to reset. With commitment to regular sessions, you can experience long-lasting healing benefits — with greater calm, clarity, confidence and connection to self.
You don’t have to navigate stress alone. There’s a natural path to lasting health, happiness and balance — and it’s closer than you think.
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